When a relationship you really care about ends abruptly, it’s natural to be upset, feel abandoned, and want to do everything in your power to figure out how to get your ex back fast. Unfortunately, most of the strategies people employ to win over an ex after a breakup just reinforce why the breakup was necessary in the first place. Show your ex that your life is going to continue and you’re not going to fall apart as a result of the breakup. Call up your friends, go out, change your hairstyle, or even get out of town for a few days. Independence is the most attractive quality in both men and women, and showing you aren’t going to fall apart after a break up might have your ex thinking twice about the decision.